Now, I'm not cold and heartless. I understand that sometimes feelings of "oh my god you're so much of what I look for in a person!" can happen as soon as, well, the first conversation. I know how it is- you instantly click, you get one another's senses of humor, you have a similar background, you like the same foods, movies, music. All of this can be discovered within the first day of chatting. And it's okay to be excited at the potential that represents. Really, it is!
Everyone wants that type of connection. Everyone appreciates feeling like someone out there understands them and what they're about. It's fun and exciting to meet that person you feel like you have known forever. And yeah, at the risk of sounding like a desperation case- it can even be fun to imagine what possibilities lie ahead for you both.
But let's face harsh reality here.
As much as you love the fact that the other person adores Limburger cheese as much as you do, or attends church three times a week and loved your favorite book just like you do!, an honest to God solid relationship just can't be based on a 2-day acquaintance. It just can't. In two days, you haven't even begun to scratch the surface of a person.
People are kaleidoscopes. Fragmented shiny little pieces, all different shades and shapes and sizes. Some people carry more baggage than others. Some have hidden disorders. Some seem batshit crazy on the outside but are actually pretty damned stable. My point is that for all you know about a person in the course of 2 days (or a week, or hell, a year sometimes!), there is a whole heck of a lot that you don't know yet and probably can never know until you have spent considerable time with them in person.
So, the next time you are chatting online with that cutie who makes you feel all warm and fuzzy and full of potential, remember that you have only seen a sliver of who they really are. And try not to catch feelings too soon.
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